Ammon, Author at Ammon Nelson Law

Considering a Divorce

Divorce can be a very difficult step to consider. You are likely reading this Blog because you have reached a point where you can see no other way to continue in your marriage. I have no doubt that at some point during your marriage you valued your relationship with your spouse. Some of you reading this Blog have tried everything to save your marriage, others of you are reading this Blog because you are unsure whether divorce is the proper next step for you. I value marriage, and I believe it is an important union that should be saved if possible. At the same time, I am a divorce attorney, and I meet with people all the time who need to end their marriage and move forward with their lives. As someone who values family and marriage, and as an attorney who recognizes the necessity of divorce in many situations, I have a few suggestions for you to consider before filing for divorce. Some of you have likely tried these things, but I have listed them below in case you have not.

Meet with a marriage counselor (Give me a call, I know a bunch)
Have a weekly date with your spouse (Call and request my monthly newsletter, I have lots of great date ideas in there)
Speak with ecclesiastical leaders
Discuss your marriage concerns with your spouse

I understand that these suggestions require both parties in the marriage to participate. If your spouse is unwilling to fully engage in efforts to repair your marriage, it is probably a good sign your spouse does not value your marriage the same as you. However, if you are both willing to make an effort to save your marriage, and that is what you really want, then your marriage probably deserves your best efforts in doing so. If this is the case, I wish you the best of luck!

If you are in an abusive relationship, where you are being abused either physically or emotionally, you must make sure you and your children are safe and engaging in efforts to save your marriage will not be effective or safe for your family. If you have decided that your marriage is beyond saving, a divorce can be the first step toward a healthy, balanced, and new beginning for you and your family.

Divorce at first glance can seem like a simple matter, but in reality, divorce law in Utah is complicated. It requires the application of numerous statutes and court decisions. You are always free to handle your divorce yourself, but I strongly recommend hiring a competent attorney. If handled properly, your divorce can be the first step toward a healthy and happy life. Your attorney should provide you with free information, resources to help you maintain overall wellness in your life, and competent legal representation. The Utah Guide to Divorce gives a general review of divorce law and what you can expect in your divorce. It also has tips on choosing an attorney. I give these Guides away for free. So give me a call, and I will send one your way.

My Phone Number is 801-668-2490 and my web address is www.ammonnelsonlaw.com

10 Great Tips for Overall Wellness

Many people may feel overwhelmed by the changes they may need to make to their lifestyle in order to feel healthy. But most people do not need to make drastic changes for them to feel better and to achieve overall wellness. Here are 10 simple tips for overall wellness.

Eat healthy

This is probably nothing new, but just about everyone needs to be reminded to make healthy food choices. A good way to make sure that you are getting enough fruits and vegetables is to fill up half of your plate with them at each meal. That way the meat and bread portion of the meal will only take up a quarter of the plate each and you will eat less of the higher calorie foods and more fruits and

veggies.

Of course it is also important for you to avoid eating foods high in sodium and saturated fat. Staying away from fast foods, most prepared frozen foods, and many packaged processed foods is a good way for you to avoid the foods you should not eat.

Eat often

Most people think that the more often they eat, the more likely they are to not lose weight, and probably gain a few pounds. But eating about every three hours will actually help your metabolism. Eating three meals and two snacks per day can help keep your body in a good rhythm and help ensure that you do not binge on extra calories at dinner or by eating a late night snack.

Don’t eat too fast

During those three meals and two snacks per day it is important to eat slowly. Shoveling the food into your mouth can cause you to overeat and give you indigestion. As you eat, you can think about how your food tastes and concentrate on chewing to help slow down your pace. It can also help to listen to slow music while you eat. Studies have shown that people who listen to slow music take only about three bites per minute compared to the average four bites per minute for people who are not listening to any music.

Exercise

An essential part of overall wellness is a healthy body. It is important for you to get at least 30 minutes of exercise at least five days a week. The trick to being able to exercise regularly is for you to choose something you like to do. Walking, running, swimming, yoga, Pilates, exercise classes, dance classes, basketball, other sports teams, and using exercise machines at the gym are all great options for exercise. Exercise not only helps your body be healthier, but it can also help you reduce stress.

Flexibility

Along with exercise being an important part of overall wellness, so is flexibility. And just because someone is fit does not mean they are also flexible. It is important for you to include stretching with your exercise. Flexibility can help decrease injuries during physical activity, it can also help a person have less back, neck, and shoulder pain. Yoga is a great way to increase flexibility and can be an excellent stress reducer as well.

Checkups

It is important for you to have a checkup with your doctor at least once a year. As you age, there are certain tests that need to be done even if you are feeling fine, in order to keep you healthy. Talk to your doctor to find out what screenings and tests you should have done so that you can catch a problem early and stay healthy.

Visit your dentist

Going to your dentist is another important check up you should have at least once a year if not every six months. If bacteria is able to build up in your mouth it can get into your blood stream and contribute to problems such as hypertension and diabetes. Getting a cleaning and x-rays can keep your mouth healthy and help ensure that you can keep your teeth strong and clean.

Sleep

Sleep is an essential part of overall wellness. Everyone can attest to the fact that when they have had a bad night’s sleep the day generally does not go very well. And if a person continues to not get enough sleep their overall health can deteriorate. A lack of the proper amount of sleep can lead a person to think less clearly and perform tasks at a less than desirable level.

Falling asleep can be hard for some people. Creating a bedtime routine can be helpful. This way your body knows that it is time to go to sleep. Having the room completely dark can also be helpful. And turning off the television and any other electronics an hour before bedtime can assist you in winding down more easily; so can reading a book or taking a bath. Many people find that using earplugs or a white noise machine can help them relax and stay asleep once they fall asleep.

Friends

Having good friends is an important part of overall health. Everyone needs someone they can talk to, who they can go to when they need help, and someone they can have fun with. Studies have shown that people who have good friends are happier people. Friends can be a great source of comfort during times of sorrow, as well as an excellent source of joy and fun. And you don’t need to have a lot of friends. One or two good friends can be plenty.

Reduce stress

Everybody has many stressors in their life. But to achieve overall wellness, it is essential that you are able to handle that stress in a positive way so that it does not bring you down. There are many ways for you to remove stress; exercise and stretching are great ways for you to let out some of your built up anxiety and stress and they can help relax your muscles. Spending time by yourself relaxing can be a great stress reliever. Or you might enjoy spending time with a friend or family member seeing a movie, going out to eat, shopping, or attending a sporting event or a play or musical. The activity doesn’t really matter as long as the end result of relieving stress is achieved.

Though it may seem overwhelming at first, ensuring your overall wellness can easily be attained through simple changes to your lifestyle. Pick one thing to work on, such as making healthier food choices or reducing stress, and work on that for awhile. Once you make your healthy choices a regular habit you will be ready to work on another aspect of your overall health and pretty soon you will be feeling great!

Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce

Divorce can be a great next step for a couple when staying married is no longer an option. Following divorce, both people in the marriage can move on with their lives and discover who they are and what they really want. It can be a new beginning.

But when there are children involved in the divorce things can be a little bit more complicated. Here are five ways that parents can help their children cope with divorce.

Tell them you love them

It is essential when parents are getting divorced for them to reassure their children often that they love them. They can also explain that though their parents will no longer be married and may not love each other anymore, they will never stop loving them. Parents can also tell their children how important they are to them and that they want them to be happy.

Discuss changes together

Many things may be changing for the children when their parents are getting divorced. They may be moving, changing schools, having to make new friends, being watched over by new people, and seeing one parent less than they may be used to seeing them. It is a good idea for parents to take the time to sit down with their children and discuss the changes that will be happening and why. This way there will be less surprises for the children to deal with. Even if the changes are hard, at least they will be aware of them and can do more to prepare themselves.

Tell the truth

It is important for each parent to tell their children the truth about why they are getting divorced. Parents can tailor the explanation to the age of the child. Something simple, such as, “we don’t get along anymore” can be a sufficient explanation for younger children who do not need a long-winded explanation.

Older children may want a more detailed explanation. It is ok to tell older children a more detailed version of the reason their parents are getting divorced. But parents should remember not to talk negatively about their ex-spouse in the process. Explaining the facts is enough even if the child wants to talk about it more than once.

Let them talk

Children will have a lot of thoughts and feelings about their parents getting divorced. Parents should allow their children to talk to them about what is going on and about how they are feeling about all of it. During these conversations the job of the parents is mainly just to listen. If it seems like the child needs advice or help and asks for it then the parent can offer some advice.

Maintain structure

As much as possible, it is best to maintain structure for the children during and soon after a divorce. Children should have the same bedtime routines and bed time. They should also have the same meal times and if they are participating in any activities such as sports or lessons, they should continue to participate in them. This way the child will feel like some of their world is maintaining stability even though much is changing.

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